Archives for January 2013

Save Your Marriage Before It Is Too Late

Save Your Marriage Before It Is Too Late

For some couples, trouble starts brewing in the paradise sooner than they had expected and those minor cracks in their relationships are already visible. Surprisingly, when they got married, they believed themselves to be mature and responsible adults. But now, they want their spouse to change first and adjust.

Well it won’t take one to make a relationship better. Just like marriage, it takes two people to couple up and both of them will have to make equal efforts to do the needful and save their marriage before it is too late. There are simple things that partners can do to resolve smaller issues and prevent them from getting any bigger.

To begin with, give each other some space. If your spouse doesn’t want to talk right away, respect their wish and talk to them when they are ready. It may be that they are already over loaded with information and overwhelmed with their thoughts.

Surprise the other by saying something nice, when they are expecting criticism from you. This will act as a catalyst and encourage new behavior from both of you. Avoid saying things or browsing sensitive topics on the fly that can lead to heated discussion. You can always sense your partners situation and see whether they would be comfortable with the discussion you want to have.

Listening is a wonderful tool that can do wonders to save marriage. This is perhaps the best gift the couples can give each other and do away with most of their problems. You will be surprised to see that you actually enjoy listening to your partner and discover a lot about him or her that you admire. Don’t keep all the love and praises for the beginning of the marriage. It is seen that the longer people are together, they start taking each other for granted and become miserly with their praises. But those magical words need to be said quite often to keep the marriage fresh and going strong.

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Marriage And Counseling

Marriage And Counselling

According to experts, we all have different mindsets and naturally will have our own views about marriage. When there are minor issues between partners, you should try to allocate time for each other to discuss and to resolve. When the minor issues are not addressed for a long time, the issues might elevate to a higher level. Some marriages fall apart sooner and often leave people wondering as to what went wrong. Divorce is no longer a feared word among couples. Most counselling experts and psychiatrists feel that the root cause of the problems lies in unrealistic expectations from each other.

Partners should get comfortable in discussing with each other about the issues and if need help reach out for family members, friends or marriage counselors  This would ease your trouble and even save your marriage, if its needed. When close family members and friends fail to resolve the issues troubling your marriage, a marriage counselor would be a valid option.

Counselors advise couples to seek help even at the slightest onset of trouble and avoid ignoring any minor issues. Often couples dislike going to a marriage counselor thinking it already means there is big trouble in marriage. But this is not true, as these experts can help and be that important means of communication between husband and wife. They keep the channel open to build up that mutual trust and understanding. Taking help of a marriage counselor should not be seen as a failure or that it is too late to save the marriage.

We treat our physical illness with medicines, similarly to resolve the issues between the partners and to better understand each other, counselling could be the medicine to make things right. Also the couples need to realize that relations are neither built nor destroyed in a day. The healing will take time and they need to be patient with each other. When you visit a counselor  have a positive mind and have faith in the process. Perhaps the third person is the only one who can really view your marriage as an outsider and help you out without any vested interests.

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Indian Matrimonial Services

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Inter-caste Marriages in India

Inter-caste Marriages in India

Inter-caste marriages in India has always been a hot debatable topic, that simply refuses to back down, even after so many years and permeation of our so called modern values. There are so many different ideologies and emotional aspects regarding the sacred tie between two people from different castes. A rigid caste system has always been an integral part of the Indian society since times immemorial.

Although its roots are beginning to get shaken up in the modern cities, the unfair and prejudiced tradition remains in full bloom in few of the orthodox villages and small towns. Some people look at the inter-caste marriages with skepticism and do not foresee a survival of such marriages due to cultural differences. Besides, such a marriage is looked upon as a disgrace on the family if the boy or girl marries someone from a different caste.

There is another stream of thought that prevails among the younger and new generations that welcomes such inter caste marriages and are totally in favor of love marriages. According to them it is mindless to divide the social equality and encourage discrimination on the basis of caste and religion. They have to fight against the cynicism of their elders and face opposition from them.

The trend of inter caste marriages in India is thankfully on the rise. People are gradually waking up to the idea of marrying outside their caste and get encouraged on seeing successful marriages among inter castes. They are noticing and respecting the love and the sincerity of the partners have for each. After all, you just can’t stop two people from loving each other. So why not be happy for them and celebrate with them.  An inter caste marriage need not be the end of the world or cast a spell of sadness and depression around. It is time we all put an end to our inhuman approach towards marriage which is a sacred institution.

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Indian Matrimonial Services

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Modern Indian Woman And Arranged Marriage

Modern Indian Woman And Arranged Marriage

The threshold for any Indian woman to get married lies at 30 years, and once she has crossed that, the mystical ball of eternal happiness that lies only in marriage seems to elude farther from her. It is at this time that her parents start getting frantic and will do everything possible in their best to get her married off. And they have only one savior by their side and that is an online portal of arranged marriage. After all, all these years, they have been hoping of some handsome and capable boy of falling in love with their daughter. Now, they are busy all night spending more time in the virtual world on arranged-marriages websites.

The results start coming faster than they can imagine. Soon their inbox is flooded with emails from boys’ relatives or from boys themselves.  It seems bizarre but it is real. The best part is that one’s date, time, and location of birth are as important in that virtual world as in the real one. Those numbers play an important role in determining how harmonious a match would be astrologically.

Parents, with a long and healthy arranged marriage, hope the same for their daughters. They somehow fear that the matters have been made worse by those expectations of too much among the younger generations. For the modern Indian woman, it is becoming unthinkable to gulp down a marriage without love. They are often reprimanded by their parents for being very choosy. But Indian woman seems to get more adamant with age and refuses to marry a boy off the newspaper.

But most Indian women do give in to their parents and their wishes and go on with the introductions. Perhaps it is just looked upon as meeting to be gossiped later with her friends. Nevertheless, for Indians, marriage remains an important focus of their life. They just cannot escape without thinking about marriage and those dizzying array of matrimonial websites point to the growing demand. To an Indian, marriage remains a matter of karmic destiny and for the modern Indian woman; well, she is on her own adventure, refusing to get bogged down by the astrological numbers.

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www.starmatrimony.com
Indian Matrimonial Services

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