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In-laws, The New Best Friends

In-laws, The New Best Friends

Wouldn’t be easier, after marriage in-laws become immediate friends. You would wish, there was coaching on how to handle new relationships and responsibilities. The two families coming together for the first time would have two different lifestyles,  with different expectations and different culture and/or habits. So the new relationship shall have some ups and downs.

You may be inclined to notice the issues with in-laws immediately and not able to ignore even the small issues. In fact you may not notice the issues with your other close relations, because you have been witnessing them since your childhood and probably got used to it. As for as in-laws, it is a sudden exposure of both families to each other. So it would take time to understand each other better and set the expectations right. So how do we reduce the commotion and make the transition smoother. The solution is part of everyone involved.

As parents and parents-in-law, they shall embrace their son/daughter falling in love with their daughter-in-law/son-in-law and let them live a happy married life. Even though the parents-in-law cannot take place of their son-in-law’s/daughter-in-law’s parents, they could be the best parents-in-law. Parents and parents-in-law shall do everything in their power to help the newly married couple succeed in their love life. They have the experience, shall know to be patient and shall take things slow.

As a newly married couple, once you get married, you are promoted to have more responsibilities from both the families. Now you have parents and parents-in-law. Please have patience with parents and parents-in-law, as they are also exposed to a new family, new lifestyle and culture. Whenever you have a chance to get-together enjoy the company, be open-minded, have a laugh and help everyone to get to know everyone else.

In your get-together, please be liberal in giving out compliments and if something does not meet your expectations, please be patient. These are some simple and small ways but can ago long way in building some long lasting relationships of love and warmth within the house. Please have in mind that it would take time to develop the understanding between new family members. Take things slowly and do not rush into conclusions. There will be ups and downs just like any other relationship. Embrace the ups, take it easy on the downs and be open-minded.

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Dating After Engagement

Dating After Engagement

You are finally engaged to the person you want and still have some time before you can tie the knot. Now you will meet each other and have some memorable moments that you can fondly look back at when you get married. So, are you expected to behave differently once you are engaged or need to maintain the same formal distance as before?

The courtship period in an arranged marriage generally lasts for a coupled of months before marriage. This is the best time to get to know each other more closely, and for many couples the idea to date their future spouse is exciting.

At the time of engagement, you may know very little about your life partner and this would be the best time to know more. But it is also an imprinting phase and there is a possibility that you might be misread or misunderstood. Therefore be very sure of the vibes and thoughts that you are sending across. After all, you would not want the other person to get wrong signals or misinterpret things about you. You have to be a good listener as well and be patient.

Open up slowly at these dates and let the relationship take its own course. Some are reserved and take time to open up while some may be too excited and would like to rush things. The right path to choose is to balance out everything. Keep in mind that every couple are different. So keep a comfortable pace that fits both of you and enjoy the course.

It is entirely your prerogative if you want to broach the topic of your past relationships, if there had been any. Tell the other person honestly and openly if they want to know. But it is perfectly fine to let bygones be bygones and happy with your partner. The fear of losing trust also compels many people to hide their past. Nevertheless, the bottom line is to use your common sense when dating your future spouse after engagement.

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Arranged Marriages – The Rules Behind

Arranged Marriages - The Rules Behind

Arranged marriages are still in fashion in most parts of the world, such as India, Bangladesh, Pakistan and some other parts of the world such as Middle East, and Southeast Asia. The match is selected by a matchmaking agent, parents or a trusted third party. Today, there is another venue where these kinds of marriages get fixed and those are matrimonial sites. The son or daughter is introduced to a potential spouse and after that, it is up to the children to take the relationship forward if they are interested and make a choice.

It may seem strange to the western world, but there are certain factors governing the laws of the arranged marriage. The main factors are caste and culture, religion, and once those hurdles are over, the reputation of the family is scrutinized. Another important factor taken into consideration is the background and wealth of the family. Families belonging to rich backgrounds and holding substantial assets prefer to marry into a similar or wealthier family.

The profession of the groom is given great importance here. Doctors, engineers, lawyers are valued a lot and looked upon with great respect and good catch for their daughter. These men, commanding relatively high income are considered as an excellent spouse material. However, vocation is not given much importance where the bride is concerned. It is not rare to see both people, belonging to same vocation getting married. Some preferred vocations for a bride are teacher, lawyer etc.

Last but not the least, horoscopes play an important role in putting the final seal on an arranged marriage. Most families have a strong belief in numerology and horoscopes. Often, a good match is shelved because the horoscope of the boy and girl didn’t not match or were not in favor of the marriage. Mângalik boy and girl will face more trouble in these waters. But in the end, the successful relationship from an arranged marriage or a love marriage would mainly dependent on the partners and how they understand each other.

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Are You Ready For Marriage?

Are you ready for marriage?

Before you tie the knot, you need to ask yourself some important questions and try to get some sincere answers to know whether you are ready for the marriage or not. Whether it is love marriage or an arranged marriage, once you get married, your lifestyle is going to change in a considerable way. You may be marrying the love of your life but it is not going to be a romantic day every day. Therefore it is very important to sit alone and ask yourself whether you are ready for marriage.

It feels great to have someone beside you through all of the ups and down in life. But marriage itself has its own highs and lows and you need to understand that. You should have a good idea about what is in store for you and have a realistic picture of what it is all going to be about. Of course you will have your midnight walks and romantic days at the beach, but there are also going to be days when you come back home, tired from stressful day at the office and still have those pile of dirty dishes waiting staring at you from the sink or sorting out all the expenses. There might be argument about who is responsible for those unaccounted expenses.

Marriage offers companionship of a spouse as well as fulfils our wants of having a family. After marriage you will have to let go a bit of your freedom, as you both will have a say in all your family decisions. Partners often complain of loss of freedom after marriage. But they should realize that marriage is a big decision and need to take additional responsibilities to be a matured family member.

One of the best parts about marriage is to have a steady companion for all those fun times and no longer eating your meals alone. You have somebody to care for you if you are feeling low or sick. Well, these are some of the goodies that come with marriage but be mature to handle the responsibilities that come along too.

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Are You Planning To Marry a Divorcee?

Are You Planning To Marry a Divorcee?

As it is, marriages are a big affair in India and every step is tread on cautiously. Therefore it is not a surprise to see second marriages ridden with complexities in our country. It is not an easy idea to marry a divorcee, but is it as tough as we think?

According to leading Relationship Coaches, the basic building block of any marriage is trust. And if there is trust in the marriage, whether it is to a divorcee or not, there is no reason why the marriage cannot be successful. Often in marriages where both partners or one of the partners was previously divorced, the couple has to face suspicion and contempt with ongoing blame games. According to a recent research, second marriages often end up in another divorce in the first two years. Often, one of the partners feels that the husband or wife is still involved emotionally with his or her ex and is not very sure of their relationship with each other.

When contemplating a second marriage or marrying a divorcee, it is always best to begin with a clean slate and fresh mind. Carrying any kind of emotional baggage from the past is going to cast a dark shadow on your present and the future of your relationships. Never compare your ex-partners as it can be very damaging to the second marriage. Respect and love the individuality of your current partner if you want the marriage to be successful.

According to psychologists, the psyche of men and women differ from each other. It is advised to spend more time together and understand each other well before tying the knot for the second time. Marrying a divorcee need not mean that you are making any compromises here. You might find a wonderful person as your partner and both of you just have to work towards your husband-wife relations.

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